Payback

            Let’s talk kids or not, but I’m going to. I have three grown and of course the kid who is much younger and maybe a bit more spoiled than they were, not in terms of things but just spoiled and not just by me but them also.

            My mother used to call every rotten thing my kids did payback. I now do the same to them and have to say I love it. Yet there are times when even as adults I would like to kick them in the ass. Don’t get me wrong I love them all with all I have yet they seem to know how to push certain buttons and I have had my fill of button pushing.

            I have been watching my grandson who is five for the last few months while his mom works. This was to be (and will be) a temporary thing. She finally has a daycare set up (hopefully, not holding my breath here) and my life can get back to its normal routine with the kid. Speaking of the kid…..

            Kids are resilient little beasts, but there are some things that have a lasting effect on them and this kid has been through some tough shit. She was stolen from me more than once, subjected to alcoholism, extreme fighting and mental and emotional abuse. She has even been in therapy at her age (kids should not need therapy, kids should remain innocent) She can be a challenge to say the least. She is head strong, stubborn, and mouthy at times, a public speaker in the making who is not going to take any shit from anyone. So we butt heads often.

            Now here comes the nephew they see each other five days a week (and most weekends because his mother doesn’t know enough to go home) and so they act more like brother and sister and they fight. Boy can they fight. Now his behavior is being blamed on the kid. Oh give me a break. He is five and he is going to give his parents a hard time here and there just to see if he can. I have had her tell me he is picking things up from the kid that she and his dad don’t like and if I hear it again I may well say then keep him away from the kid. I know she isn’t perfect, yet when the sister and nephew are absent so is most of the crap. Did I mention the kid’s sister will argue with her until I am ready to scream? Then ask me why I don’t do anything. I finally told her I am not going to have two people yelling at the kid at the same time and she seemed to be doing a damn good job of it.

            So what all this is coming down to is this. It’s payback sweetheart. Your kid is going to give you all the crap you gave me and maybe then some and you will still love him even when he makes you want to tear out your hair or lock yourself in the bathroom because it’s the only room in the house with a door that locks.